Posted by Barack Levin on 7th December 2011
Last night I had a last minute business meeting at 7PM. My wife was at yoga and I had to take the kids with me. The meeting was taking place at the nearest Starbucks and was schedule for about 30 minutes. Instead of approaching my kids with “bed” news about dad going out, I flipped the news in their favor.
“Kids” I said “I have a surprise for you”
“What is it daddy?” They ask
“We are going to Starbucks where you can buy hot milk and a cookie for desert”
They are jumping off their seats in excitement.
“You need to take your books to read while dad needs to talk to his friend”. They immediately agree and off we go.
As always, they purchase what they want by themselves. They approach the cashier and tell her exactly what they need. She rings them up and they also pay. They grab their goodies and go to sit on the sofa opening their books and reading while dad decides what he is going to have.
I choose my cookie and hot milk too and take my time ordering. My contact, which I only know through emails, has not arrived yet. When I am done, I take a look at the kids and see them talking to an adult sitting close to them on the sofa. Other parents might freak out, but not me. My kids know very well how to talk to adults and when. They know that if their dad is with them at the store, they have no problem engaging in conversation with anyone there. I smile and approach them.
As I do the person they talked to stands up and asks for my name and introduces himself. He is my contact person and without knowing it talked to my kids.
We sit down to take care of business and he tells me how parents are freaking out when other unknown adults talk to their kids. I briefly tell him about my theory and he smiles understating it completely. We get to business and every once in a while I glance at my kids. They are busy reading and drinking their hot milk. The meeting goes without a hitch and after 30 minutes we are done. During that time I did not have to quiet my kids, talk to them or even approach them because of something that they do. I conduct my meeting as if they were not there.
This brief and unimportant incident comes to demonstrate parents that kids can be obedient and under self control with proper upbringing.