Posted by Barack Levin on March 17th, 2012
There is very deep silver lining with all the parents I talk to and help. I am getting to a conclusion that parents are fearful of their kids or more accurately, parents are so afraid to “screw up” their kids’ lives that they simply freeze in sigh of that fear and are very reluctant to use any means to control them.
The mixed messages parents get from the media, friends and even so called “professionals” causes them to calculate each and every step that they make towards raising their kids and in the meantime not to take a coherent concessive approach to raising their children.
A long time ago spanking was the way to obedient kids but modern preacher tell parents that spanking is not aloud, so parents use shouting and yelling instead but that is also not good – other professionals tell parents that while spanking is physically cruel, shouting and telling is mentally debilitating the child.
Some experts rave about the benefits of co-sleeping while others are against it, some side with giving babies a pacifier and some see this is an unnecessary tool.
News, reports and studies flood parents with contradicting information about what is good and is not good for their kids running them paralyzed in their efforts to bring up good kids. The end result is that parents are simply afraid of making a mistake with their kids and simply take no action out of fear letting their kids grow up with no structure.