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Barack Levin

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Archive for October, 2011

Boys Are Better Than Girls

Posted by Barack Levin on 20th October 2011

We are all, parents, educators and even the government constantly cheer for equal opportunity rights. We always say out loud: “Girls are equal to boys” and feminists will even burn their bras to demonstrate that point, however, in reality things are exactly the opposite. Here is how it goes.

From the very first day boys and girls are born, we start to treat them differently in a biased way that prefers boys over girls and makes boys grow to become better than girls. “How?” you might ask yourselves. “I am, as a parent, will never do something like that. I treat them equally”, but here is the thing – you do not. As I wrote, it starts in early childhood and kids games and continues to adulthood.

What kind of games do you buy your son? You might answer, Legos, building blocks, puzzles and even balls. And why do you buy these toys for boys? The answer is also obvious. You want them to develop their motor skills, analysing skills and coordination. In other words, the toys are there to help build some very basic skills that your boy will retain for the rest of his life.

And what do we buy girls? Dolls, make up, dress-up dresses, purses and hair brushes. The obvious question is what kind of skills do we teach these girls? And the answer is also very clear: be pretty, grow up to be a home maker and most importantly, rely on someone else to do everything for you because you do not really posses any useful skills.

When our girls grow older, all of a sudden the “equality” monster pops her head again demanding for equal rights however, for years we have filled our girls’ head with junk and now it takes them time to learn these new basic skills all over again. Not an easy task to do.

We, as a society, have created built in mechanism to make sure that boys will always be better than girls.

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Car Pool TV

Posted by Barack Levin on 19th October 2011

On my way to drop the kids at school, I see quite frequently how the portable TV is blasting away at other car pooling vehicles and I always ask myself the same question: Why?

I am pretty sure that when the kids wake up, the TV in the house (or worse – in their bedroom), is already up and running and I am also pretty sure that when they get back to school the same happens as well, so why do these parents need to also extend it to their cars?

For me, dropping the kids in the morning is a great time to talk and chat with my kids. They woke up up 30 minutes before, they are full with energy from the night, in good mood and have lots on their minds as they ready themselves for the day. It is that in these morning car chats I find out a lot of information about their needs, wants, fears and wishes. In one of those chats I discovered that someone was bullying them, in another one I found out that my girl was also playing with boys and in another who was the class clown. The car ride in the morning and the afternoon can provide a wealth of information considering my kids’ life, so why ruin it by watching TV?

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Heart Disease Original Fund Raising Campaign

Posted by Barack Levin on 18th October 2011

I was walking with my wife the other day on our way to a restaurant without the kids. Having a night out just the two of us to energize our marriage. On our way I saw an ad that caught my eye. It was an ad for raising money for heart disease research. What caught my eye with this ad was the way they wanted to raise the money. The title of the ad was: Buy Nachos to help fight heart disease. There was, of course, a picture of a Nachos plate loaded with cheese attached it. I smiled because of the contradiction in the ad. On one hand it is a noble cause to raise money for heart disease but on the other hand, the very means to raise that money is the leading cause for heart disease.

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What Do You Think Is Going To Happen?

Posted by Barack Levin on 18th October 2011

I always like to ask families I help the following question: “What do you think is going to happen” and I give them an example.

For instance, what do you think is going to happen to your child if he is beaten every day since birth? What do you think is going to happen to your child if he is consistently under fed? Or what do you think is going to happen to your child if he is deprived from sleep for years?

I deliberately choose extreme and shocking scenarios to get the families think about consequences of such actions in order to driver my real point across. These families are of course outraged at such examples and immediately attack back with worst case scenarios for that poor kid in those examples and I let them rage a little, release steam.

When they are done, I ask them another simple question that usually is the beginning of our discussion at helping them with their kids: “What do you think is going to happen to a kid who is in front of flashing, blinking and dancing monitors in front of his eyes most of the day?” It is at that time that these parents become very quite and understand what I was driving at. Their kid’s behavior is influenced by his habits and these habits need to be changed.

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Ritalin for kids 4 years old

Posted by Barack Levin on 17th October 2011

I just heard that the FDA approved the usage of Ritalin for 4 year old kids. I think it is a shame. Instead of treating the root cause of the problem – we drug our kids and the US government allows it. I am pretty sure that some powerful drug industry lobbyists “helped” getting to this conclusion.

The truth is that by some very simple means such as cutting off video games to young mind, banning TV from their lives, providing physical activity outside and providing them with nutritional food, we can solve this problem easily.

However, parents do not want or have no time to invest the time or provide the attention needed to solve these problems. They are looking for the quick easy to use short cut solutions. It is easier to give a pill then to address the real issues.

We are drugging our kids for no reason and we will suffer the consequences later. I only feel pitty for the poor kids who have to go through this process and lose their souls and their normal development in the process.

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Invisible Protection vs. Physical Protection

Posted by Barack Levin on 14th October 2011

I strongly believe, and I also raise my kids this way, in the invisible protection method. Before I go into this, let me explain what physical protection is. Physical Protection happens when a parent physically protect their kids from any danger or harm. The term Helicopter moms comes to mind. These parents guard their kids like a hawk, never leaving their site, every little wound or scratch has to be immediately treated, the kids can not do anything dangerous and in other words, they do not let their kids experience the real world.

The invisible protection is when a parent gives the kid the tools to make his own decisions to protect himself on his own. Such parents teach their kids to know their limits and let them roam free within these limits. Invisible protection parents let their kids make their own decision and understand the consequences without exterior interference. Such kids learn to become and independent, self reliant and self conscious.

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Fun with the Tooth Fairy

Posted by Barack Levin on 12th October 2011

My son keeps on losing his teeth and has been getting some money as exchange for his fallen teeth. One night he came to us with a new tooth in his hand and went straight to his room to hide it under his pillow.

The next morning he rushed down the stairs all excited. “Mom, Dad”, he shouted “You will not believe that” and he continues “After I left the tooth under my pillow last night, I checked it again today and you know what I found?” “No” I asked. “I found $5 and an olive”. “An olive?” I asked “Why an olive?” “I do not know. May be it was her snack and she forgot about it. I do not know”.

For the rest of the day he could not stop talking about the tooth fairy and the olive. He told every one he knew and we just kept laughing quietly.

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Another Reason Why I am Against Animated Classical Stories

Posted by Barack Levin on 10th October 2011

I was about my son’s age (7), when I was first introduced to the classical stories by the Grim Brothers and others such as Snow White for example. Back then when I read the book ,y imagination made it into a story. Snow White had a certain appearance, the evil witch had another, the seven dwarfs looked a certain way and I did not care much for Prince Charming so I could care less how he looked like. Yes, there were pictures in those books and still, even with these pictures (which were not too many any way), I could still make up my own interaction between the characters, how the forest looked like, how the dwarfs’ house was arranged and more.

In today’s world, with these animated movies the kids are spoon fed with everything leaving very little to imagination. They are basically given everything including how everyone and everything looks like and interacts with the environment. They are given a linear way of thinking and suppress their imagination.

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102 Fever

Posted by Barack Levin on 2nd October 2011

My girl (5) came home 4 days ago complaining about a sore throat. Complaining may not be the right word here, because complaining when associated with kids’ illnesses usually means crying, fatigue and annoyance. She was more like reporting that her throat hurts sometimes when she ate or when she sneezed. My wife checked her temperature and she had a 100 degrees. My wife ran to the medicine cabinet to give her something to lower her fever. I stopped her on her way. “Why?” I asked. “Because your daughter has fever”, my wife replied. “And?” I asked. My wife looked at me her not wanting to understand what I meant by that and I continued. “She is not complaining on everything. She looks perfectly normal. She acts perfectly normal so why load her up with drugs. Let her natural defenses take care of this virus. Nothing will happen to her if she fights it”. My wife thought about it and agreed.

My girl seemed to be fine and went to school the next day. She came back home, again not complaining but only reporting about the same symptoms. My wife checked her fever. It was 102. My wife became nervous and decided it was strep throat and that she had to be taken to the doctor’s office. “How do you know?” I asked. “She complains her throat and she has high fever. This is strep.” “Well Dr. Mom”, I replied, “I understand your concern but this might not be strep. 102 for a child is not considered high fever, besides she does not complain at all. She looks perfectly fine, but I promise you that if this thing does not go away, I will personally take her to the doctor’s office tomorrow”. Since my girl did complain about headaches, we gave her something for that and she went to sleep. Towards the morning she coughed hard and we eased her up with some coughing syrup.

She woke up in the morning. Fully rested and the virus was all gone. Personally, I think that we over medicate our kids, we over protect them from everything and o not let their immune system to develop correctly. Not every fever or cough requires a trip to the doctor’s office.

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