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Author: Barack Levin

Archive for February, 2010

Recipe for raising ADD and ADHD kids

Posted by Barack Levin on 24th February 2010

I look around and see other kids and finally figured out what causes them to grow up with ADD and ADHD. In my opinion, doctors and parents alike are too light on the diagnosis and medication trigger for such cases, but parents are mostly to blame for their kids’ behavior. If you want to raise such a kid, here are the some steps you need to take:

- expose the kid to as much TV as possible. In fact, make sure you equip his room with a TV set so that he can watch it even before he goes to sleep

- do not limit the content on his TV, let him watch inappropriate programs, flood him with commercials unsuitable for him and let him be exposed to as much violence as possible

- buy him a video game console and make sure that in the time he does not watch TV, he plays with that system. Make sure that he is exposed to violent games and extra sexual content

- buy him a handheld video game so that he can continue with his games in the car, waiting at the doctor’s office or at the dinner table

- make sure you invest as little time with him as possible. Send him to his room to play with his games and watch his TV whenever available

- let your child determine what he eats and at what times. Feed him with sodas, fast food and cookies. Do not insist on healthy foods such as vegetables or fruits.

- make sure he does not participate in too much physical activity. Let him become a couch potato and remain as passive as possible

Of course, if you do not want to raise such a child, I suggest you avoid all of these altogether.

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Placebo and Kids

Posted by Barack Levin on 21st February 2010

Recently, because of my TV interview about Placebo and Kids, I have been asked to comment on my approach. So here we go.

The first question I get is how or what triggered this approach to begin with. It all started when my son was 1 year old and started going to day care. Soon after, the diseases came home with him as well. It seemed that every 2 weeks he came home with something else. If it was not ear infection, it was strep throat, if it was not strep throat it was a tummy ache, if it was not the tummy ache than it was a runny nose with fever. It seemed endless and with every incident, he spent a day with me recovering from his illness.

As a very new and concerned parent, my initial instinct was to immediately run to the medicine cabinet and dispense what ever drug was recommended for the occasion. As time went by, it seemed to me as if this cycle of illnesses and medications never ends, and so I had a brain storm session with myself to figure out what was happening on here. After some arguments with myself, myself suggested that giving medications to my kid does not challenge his immune system and with time it became inefficient and more reliant on the drugs. Myself suggested that I stopped giving my boy the meds. I agreed with the concept but not with the conclusion and then myself suggested Placebo.

I went through the cycle of several illnesses, but within 2 or 3 of them, I have noticed that the frequency is going down and the time between incidents is longer. With time, I realized that my son is never sick.

In my opinion, the Placebo helps build a strong and more efficient immune system. When my girl was 1 year old and started going to day care, she did not get any meds, but went straight with Placebo therapy. She did not even go through the 6 months period I had with my son. Within 2-3 incidents and Placebo treatment I saw the change. She was no longer sick.

To this day, my kids are just not sick and even if they get something, it usually does not bother them to the point that they even develop a fever of have to stay home and rest.

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Your Kids Are Not Special !

Posted by Barack Levin on 19th February 2010

I see it everywhere. Parents think that their kids are special and do not need to be disciplined because they are free spirited kids with a need to enjoy freedom. The parent’s excuse their kids’ behavior as experimental, enjoyable and adventures, but I am here to tell you that this is not the case. Your kids are not special.

If your kids scream, yell and throw food on the floor at a restaurant, do not tell that they experiment with freedom, they are simply brats who are out of control; if your kids through tantrums in the middle of the store, don’t tell me that this is how they show their independency; if your kids can not sit still for a minute, don’t tell me that they explore their surrounding.

I am writing so patiently about this issue because of an incident I had yesterday at my kids’ swim class. Next to me sat a kid and his mom. The kid was 6 and he and his brother, about 4, were taking swimming classes with my kids. The younger one was in the pool and the older one was waiting for his class. I wish I could say that the old one was sitting and waiting, but he did not. He was agitated and irritated to the point  that he could not sit still for a second. But what surprised me the most was his mom’s reaction. She is one of those moms who think her boy is special and does not need to be disciplined. Instead of using some strong words or actions, she politely asked him again and again to sit down calmly. When he did not (and why would he), she asked again, very politely, if he could sit still for 5 minutes. Needless to say nothing worked.

I wanted to tell this mom that her child is not special and she needs to take things in perspective and use some more affective techniques.

It reminded me of an excerpt I read online by Jack Cafferty from CCN. He writes in his book “Now or Never: Getting Down to the Business of Saving Our American Dream” this true words:” Some parents still have this attitude that their kids are too special to be burdened by discipline. And the rest of us are supposed to put up with their little mutants. That attitude really pisses me off. I hate to break it to them, but the kids aren’t special, and I don’t have to put up with their behavior. If you can’t control your obnoxious little brats, leave them home.”

I could not have said it better.

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Bullying – The Conclusion

Posted by Barack Levin on 11th February 2010

On Monday it was my turn to pick up the kids from school. As they entered the car, the carpool kid said, pointing at my son: “He was nice to me today”. I asked him what happened, and the carpool boy said that they he did not hit my son and that my son did not hit him. I told him: “You see. When you do not hit my son and you are nice to him, he will be nice to you”. He nodded for approval.

It has been almost a week since that conversation in the car and no other events have been reported. I have managed to teach my son and girl how to defend themselves and not let be bullied by others.

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Bullying – Part II

Posted by Barack Levin on 6th February 2010

On Thursday my boy came home and as always I asked him how was his day, tell me what you did, what you leaned and some other questions that will give me some insight as to what he was doing during his day. He answered that everything was fine but that the kid we car pool with was not nice to him. I asked him what he meant by that and he said that the other boy put stickers on him and later on even hit him. I asked him what did he do, and he said he told that kid “No”, but it did not help.

I had 2 options at that point. The first one was to talk to the kid’s mom and tell her what happened and ask her to deal with it. The second option I had was to contact his school or teacher and tell them to warn the kid. I chose a third option.

The problem with the first 2 options is that they do not give the child tools to defend himself in the future. These options are indirect approaches to deal with the problem. They are not a good solution and so I decided to go with option 3.

I told my son that if that kid, or any other kid for that matter, ever touches him again to hit hard; so hard, so that the other kid will never ever touch him again. My boy nodded for understanding and we ended the day.

The next day I picked up the boys from school. As they entered, the carpool kid said: “He kicked me today and was not nice to me”. I asked him “why did he kick you”, he said he could not remember, which was an excellent sign that he was lying. I told him that I could not help him unless he remembers what happened. After some time and some questions and answers he finally said: “I hit him with the jump rope”, so I replied “You see, if you do not hit him, he will not hit you”. He understood and set quietly for the rest of the ride.

After dropping him over and getting to our house, I congratulated my son and told him he acted exactly as he should have and that next time he should hit the other kid even harder until he is on the floor crying.

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Bullying – Part I

Posted by Barack Levin on 6th February 2010

Last week I took my kids and the kid we car pool with to school. My son and his friend set at the back row of the minivan and my girl in the middle raw. As we were driving, the boys at the back were talking and my girl was half way turned facing them to join in on the conversation. At one point, the other kid told my girl that she is annoying him and that she should turn back. She did not want to so he said something nasty to her and she turned back facing the front of the car sobbing. She is only 4 and he is 6 and she got hurt. I told her not to cry and that I would take care of it. I could have chosen to say something to the other kid, but I chose not to. Bullying does not stop because the parents say something; it stops because the bullied kid stands up for himself.

I saw this as an opportunity o teach my girl something new. After dropping the boys at school, I was left with my girl driving to her school and we started chatting. I asked her what happened, and she told me the story all over again. I asked her what she should have done and she did not know what I meant and so I told her. If this situation ever arises again, she should tell him” This is my car not yours”. If he continues, to go at him again with “Shut your mouth” and if he goes for another round tell him “You are a stupid boy”. She smiled and promised she will remember it. That evening I reminded her and waited for the next time it happened.

2 days later the opportunity presented itself. The kid entered the car and we started our ride to school. Several minutes into the ride the boy started again harassing my little girl. I did not say a word. She looked him straight in the eye and told him: “This is not your car it is mine, I can say what ever I want”. He was surprised and answered back “This is not your car’. She did not let him have the final word: “Shut your mouth”. Now he was distressed and told her “You are mean”. I was smiling, but apparently she did not think he had enough. “You are a stupid boy” she said. Now he was hurt and answered “I am not talking to you”. My girl could not care less at this point. She was so happy and I was happy that she now knows how to fend herself.

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