Posted by Barack Levin on 29th September 2009
One of my goals, with my kids, is to teach them to stand up to adults to get what they want. I do not want them t be intimidated by adults or to be shy towards them. I want them to understand that adults are just like kids, but simply bigger. If my kids need to ask an adult for something, I want them to know how to interact with them.
Tonight, I had an excellent opportunity to continue my teaching. After a long day, I just had to get out, so I told my wife that we were going to go to Starbucks to get something hot to drink. We packed the kids in the minivan and headed out.
When we got there, I ordered some hot chocolate for me, some tea for my wife and warm milk for the kids. We sat down and when the order was ready, we gave each of the kids their warm milk. My son loves his milk with a dash of honey. When he found out he had no honey in his milk, he asked me if he could get some. My opportunity was revealed. I called him over to where I was sitting in a wide armchair and nudged him in the direction of the counter. I told him to go to the attendant and to say loudly, “excuse me sir, can you help me?” and to continue from there. And so he did. He approached the counter and with a lot of self-confidence, called the attendant. The first time was too low, but the second time, he got his attention. The attendant came to him and asked “how can I help you, sir?” My son, without hesitation, said “I got the milk, but I also want some honey.” No problem” was the answer. “How much do you want?” My son answered back without hesitation. “Just one spoon please.” The attendant replied, “Why, no problem,” and my son got his request. He was so pleased. He came back to us smiling and happy.
He now understands that he can address an adult with enough self- confidence to explain his need and to get it fulfilled effectively.