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Barack Levin

Author: Barack Levin

Archive for July, 2009

Stop Crying

Posted by Barack Levin on 20th July 2009

One of the things that I hate the most is when my kids cry. This is true no matter what the reason.  Now I know that kids need to cry every once in a while and it is probably good for them, but I do not want crying to become a pressure mechanism for them to use to get something out of us. For example, crying to get a new toy or crying when a favorite food is not on the table.

Sometimes, they do have a very valid reason for crying, such as an injury.  Even with these, “so called,” valid reasons, I  do not see the value of their crying. The length of time it takes to calm them down is another factor to consider.

When there is an injury, crying is problematic because it intensifies the situation. The kid then develops a spiral, downward, emotional pathway in which his crying augments his injury and leads to more crying.  At the end of this process, the kid cries and the parents get stressed.

I decided to find a way to decrease the amount of my kids’ crying.

When one of my kids starts to cry, whatever the reason, the first thing I do is to ask him or her to look at me. The first step to stop the crying is to break the cycle. Once the kid has to start thinking about something else, other than the crying, he has to focus on that new thought and the crying subsides naturally.  So, the first step is to distract them; the second step is to have them change their thought pattern. I look them straight in the eye and tell them, “If you want me to help you, you have to stop crying and tell me what happened.” This is an excellent trick.

Now the kid has to stop crying in two stages. In the first one, he needs to stop the actual physical sobbing to talk to me. He cannot cry and talk at the same time and if he wants me to help, he has to choose one or the other.  In the second one, his brain is now focused on a new task, which is explaining what happened. As long as I can keep him focused on that task and get him to give me a long detailed description of what happened, he is not focused on crying and, like magic, he stops crying on his own and forgets about the whole incident all together.  I used this excellent method for my kids in their early years and it has always worked.

There are two interesting things that I need to mention here. First, my kids now already know that I am using this method, so when they come crying to me or to their mom, they already have an explanation prepared which makes the length of the crying very short. Secondly the amount of crying incidents has gone down significantly, because now they have the tools to analyze their situation and decide if it is even worth crying about.

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One Event Per Weekend

Posted by Barack Levin on 20th July 2009

We are a very active family. Almost every day after the kids come back from daycare, we go for a stroll, ride bikes or walk to the local playground to have the kids release some of their energy. Since the kids do not watch any TV, we HAVE to do something else with them, and we find these activities to be a very rewarding and bonding experience for all of us.

Weekends are no different. We usually plan several activities and if we have none planned, we go to the park or the river or simply go for a walk. In most cases, we like to invite our friends and their kids so that we can all enjoy the outdoors together.

One thing that perplexed me for a very long time was the way friends would react to our invites. In the beginning, we thought the reason had something to do with us, but we slowly understood that we were not the reason. What I am referring to is that many families would postpone our invites or cancel them, even if they had nothing else to do. I thought about it long and hard and simply could not figure out the answer until recently, during a very interesting conversation I had with one of the moms at daycare.

We met in the hallway and started chit-chatting. The conversation was about work and kids and at some point she asked me about our plans for the weekend and I asked her the same. Her answer was that the coming weekend was an exceptional one, because she had more than one activity planned for her kid. There was a birthday party and they had been invited to another party. When I asked why it was an exception, she answered that their rule for the weekend was that they set a limit of one family activity for each weekend. It was then, at that moment, that I finally connected the dots. I finally understood why so many of our friends preferred to stay home and not go out. It was not us; it is them. I am sure that many other families have the same rule and since they let their kids watch TV, they do not need to get out as much.

 I am no longer perplexed. Now I know the real reason that some of the invitations that we extend are turned down, but I will, of course, continue with our routine and invite others to come with us.

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Cubes

Posted by Barack Levin on 15th July 2009

My kids’ room is mostly always organized. After they are finished playing, we have a cleanup session. When they were younger I helped and showed them how it was done. Now that they are grown up, they do it by themselves. I simply do not have the energy and will to run after them and arrange their room. I think that their room is their responsibility and they have to take care of it, the same way they take care of their dishes after they finish eating.

At first, clean up time was not easy, since no child wants to clean up, but when we proved to them that we will stand our ground in this issue and that cleanup is an integral part of play time they started to understand. Now cleanup is a breeze for them and we took it even one step further. Whenever they are done playing with one game and want to start with another one, we ask them to first put up the toy they finished with before continuing to the next one, and it works like a charm every time. They have gotten used to it and now they do it naturally.

Last night, my kids were playing in my daughter’s room. I decided to join them. They wanted to play with the wooden cubes and dragged a white cotton bag full of cubes, about thirty of them, to the room. My little girl grabbed the sack and was about to spill its contents on the floor. I was sitting on the bed, and they were on the floor so she raised her eyes to look at me and to get my approval. She knew what she was doing and anticipated my reaction.

She was actually waiting for my approval to spill all the cubes out. “You can do that, but you know that you will need to arrange all of them back in the sack later.” She looked at me nodding. She understands action, reaction and consequence. I gave her an option and let her make the decision. She decided against spilling the entire contents of thirty cubes and only took the two cubes she wanted.

This proves my point that giving tools to kids helps them to understand their actions and it helps them to come to logical conclusions.

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Help me please

Posted by Barack Levin on 14th July 2009

When my little boy started riding his bicycle without his training wheels all by himself, he rode fast and straight, while keeping his balance, plus, he loved to burn rubber.

One Sunday, we went to a park, close to our house, which has a bike trail along the river. The trail is straight and shaded, with no cars. It is a perfect place for an afternoon ride.

Even though my son knew how to ride a bike, he didn’t yet know how to start by himself. He needed me to help him to balance. I would help him to balance, give him a push and off he would go. The problem was that when he stopped, he had to wait for me to get him going again.

I soon came up with a solution. I told him that every time he fell, he should wait for an adult to pass by and ask the adult to give him a kick start.  Just as I instructed him to do, he did.  When he fell off the bike, he would stop a complete stranger and ask them to help him get back on his bike. I, of course, watched him from a distance to make sure he was safe.

In addition to solving a biking problem, this also helped deal with another problem. My son was very shy about going up to speak to grownups.  By him approaching grownups by himself to ask them to help him with his bike, this shyness problem was dealt with as well.

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Jump in the Water

Posted by Barack Levin on 13th July 2009

One weekend, we went to some friends’ house to enjoy their pool. We played and splashed each other for hours. At one point, my little girl asked to jump from the side of the pool into the water. When she was younger, maybe two years old, it was almost impossible to stop her from jumping into pool. I always had to make sure that she waited for me before she jumped. She enjoyed it very much and I was happy that she was not afraid.

So, when she stood on the side of the pool and asked me to catch her when she jumped into the water, this time, I showed her I would. I positioned myself close to her, extended my hands and readied myself for the incoming splash. My little girl stood at the edge, but refused to jump. She seemed too scared to jump and simply would not budge. When I saw that nothing was going to happen, I told her that she could do it another time. She turned around and went back to play with her friend.

On the way home, I decided to have a meaningful discussion with her. I asked her if she thought that I would ever hurt her or let her get hurt. She said, “No.” I asked her if she thought that I would not catch her when she jumped into the water. She said, “No.” So, I asked her, “Why didn’t you jump?” She just looked at me. After a little while, she said that the next time we went to the pool, she would jump.

The next day, we were invited to another pool and I decided to see if she would keep her promise. I asked her if she was ready to jump and she said that she was ready. I sent her to the edge of the pool. She was standing there, frightened, knees buckling, again refusing to jump. It seemed as if it was a Déjà-vu. I reminded her about our conversation from the previous day. She nodded, took a big breath and jumped.

From then on, she continued to jump into the water occasionally, each time with more joy and self- confidence. I was happy that I was able to make her realize that nothing bad would happen to her if she jumped. I managed to root out a fear that might have continued to be an obstacle in her life.

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Dive, Dive Dive !!

Posted by Barack Levin on 11th July 2009

We went to visit some new friends today. They have kids the same ages of our kids. They invited us over to play in their pool. They have a long pool with a high diving board. My son saw it and immediately headed for it to jump off of it. Of course, he could not satisfy his needs by only one jump. He jumped again and again.

After a while, he came back to the shallow water to play with us. At one point, after we had a snack, he asked me if he could go into the water without his floaters. I agreed and he did, staying very close to me. When I saw that he handled himself very well, I decided it was time for a new lesson for him.

On the floor of the pool there were some plastic toys that the kids had played with previously. I told my son that it was time for him to learn how to hold his breath, dive and pick up the toys. He agreed to do the experiment. He held me tight and asked that I lift one toy a little higher so that it would be easier for him to reach it. I did and I told him to hold his breath, open his eyes in the water, and dive. And so he did. On the first try he failed, but went at it again and managed to get a hold of it. The next toy, I held a little deeper in the water and he grabbed it too. By the fourth time, he was becoming an expert. Now I did not have to hold the toy anymore. It was just laying there waiting for my son. I noticed that every time he tried to get a toy, he controlled his breathing better and better. The first few times he came out almost breathless and the last few times he came out of the water with his mouth still closed and with plenty of air remaining.

Soon after, I realized that he did not need his floaters anymore. I let him swim across the pool all by himself with me walking next to him. As he did, he would reach out with his hand readying himself to return back.

All in all he now knows how to dive and hold his breath while searching for items in the water. He is also taking his first steps towards swimming alone.

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Junk Food

Posted by Barack Levin on 9th July 2009

I make sure my kids eat healthy food. When our older boy was born, we completely changed our eating habits. All junk food, sodas and candies were removed from the house and we started eating more vegetables and fruits and freshly cooked meals. As a result, our kids learned to love to eat foods that I have not seen any other kids eating including zucchinis, beats, sprouts and mushrooms. They also love fish, sushi and fava beans. In general, they eat all kinds of healthy food.

However, other kids that we know are limited to a diet of pizza, spaghetti, hotdogs and candies. No vegetables, hardly any fruits and most of the food is store bought and not freshly prepared. What really upsets me the most is that our kids see what other kids eat and they want the same. They want chocolate, candies, and other junk food. This defies my values and efforts.

Our current decision is that during the week, their dinners are under our control and we feed them good food. On weekends, we usually go out with friends to parks, the lake or the pool and we bring our food.

Day care is another issue. Fortunately enough for us, some of their food is acceptable and we just have to accept the rest.

My older boy starts kindergarten soon. We have already chosen the option to provide his food for him, on a daily basis, so that we know his meals will be healthy.

One decision that we have reached is not to give any candies, cakes or ice creams to our kids in the house. They have them anyway when they are away from us at daycare or with their friends, so there is no need to increase the amount of sugar they are eating.

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Timeout

Posted by Barack Levin on 9th July 2009

My little girl came home two days ago with a report that she was not nice to her friends that day. We let it go, because up until that day, she never had any problems in daycare. As a matter of fact, a few months earlier, at a parent-teacher conference, her teacher told me she had nothing to discuss with me about her. She told me that my daughter was above average in everything for her age and was the most popular girl in her class. She had been a favorite, not only with her classmates, but also with her teachers.

The next day my daughter came back home with a report stating that she had to do a timeout. Now this is the first time she has had one in daycare. We asked her what was wrong and she said she did not remember. I was already familiar with this defense mechanism of hers.

When she is ashamed of something, she refuses to talk. We tried to dig further but with no luck.  We reached a conclusion that the timeout was not because of a justified reason.  Previous to whatever this incident was, we had given her permission to push anyone who pushed her.  Even if she had to go to timeout, she knew that we would not punish her.

We decided to act on the bad report immediately before she adopted a new bad behavior. We told her that if we got another report stating that she had a timeout, we would punish her. She nodded that she understood. And that was it. Today we took her from daycare and everything is back to normal.

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I hate you Mommy !!

Posted by Barack Levin on 9th July 2009

I was talking to one of our friends the other day about our kids, their progress, the economy and other things. During the conversation we talked about buying things for our kids and I told my friend that because of the economy, we thought twice about every expense, including expenses that relate to our kids. She told me that whenever her daughter wanted something and did not get it, she said to her mom, “I hate you, Mommy.” I guess that I was kind of shocked when I heard it, because I immediately said that if any of my kids ever told me something, even remotely similar to that, I would have dealt with it and put an end to the disrespect in an instant. The mother laughed.

Such behavior does not “just happen” in one day. I am quite positive that her daughter picked up those words at school or more likely from TV and used them once to see if they would work. When her mother did not act quickly to address it as a problem, the girl understood that what she had said was a legitimate form of expression and that it was allowed. From there it became a way to get more attention, more toys or even food. Her daughter had learned how to use this leverage on her mom to receive whatever she wanted.

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Spaghetti

Posted by Barack Levin on 9th July 2009

We went to the lake with our two little monsters. When we go to the lake, we usually go there from ten o’clock in the morning until five o’clock in the evening. Sometimes, we are there longer. Because we stay there for such a long time, we bring a lot of things with us.

One of the items we bring, that our kids love to play with in the water, is colorful spaghetti. These are long hollow foam tubes which actually help my kids to float.

Towards the end of one trip to the lake, I asked my little boy to start getting our things together. A kid, older than my son, was holding and playing with our spaghetti. I sent my son into the water to get it. He approached the kid and asked him to give him the spaghetti. The kid simply ignored my son and continued walking around with it. My son asked again and got the same response. When he looked at me, I saw an opportunity to teach him something new. I could have gone into the water and taken the spaghetti from the kid, but I wanted my son to learn to be tough, especially when it came to things that belong to him.

From the beach, I signaled my son to hold on to the floater with both hands and to pull as hard as he could to release it from the grip of the other kid. He did, but the kid did not even notice it. He continued to try and try and try, all the time failing miserably, but finally, just when I was ready to go ahead and help him, he tried one more time. This time the tug was powerful and the spaghetti was released from the kid’s hands. Triumphantly, my son took the spaghetti back to the beach. When he got close to me, I gave him a hug and patted him on the shoulder. “This is the way to do things if words do not help. Always learn to stand on your own two feet and fight for what’s yours.” I said and he smiled. I came to realize I could give my kids life lessons even on the beach.

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Easy Way Out

Posted by Barack Levin on 7th July 2009

I have noticed recently, that my little girl is always looking for an easy way out of situations. For example, when it is time to clean her room, she focuses on a toy and start to play with him and not helping out. When it comes to cleaning up her room there is simply no questions about it. Until it is cleaned she can not join us for dinner so this solves it. But I am starting to notice it in other areas as well.

We started working on a very 4×4 puzzle. Something super simple that she should have no problem completing in 5 minutes. However, it takes her about 30, to finish. I have started to notice that she is constantly asking for help when she gets stuck instead of trying to figure it out by herself. I am not sure if it is laziness, lack of skills or just trying to find an easy way out (daddy will complete it for me), but I am starting to lean towards the latter. While we were playing I told her that we will sit and complete the puzzle with no interruptions. However, every time she stumbles onto a deadened with the puzzle she is ready to quit. I did not give he the chance and stayed with her until the puzzle was complete.

At the end she was of course happy to finish it and I told her that next time she should not quit so easily but try to work out the problems. I hope it works.

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Running with Scissors

Posted by Barack Levin on 7th July 2009

I drove to day care to pick up my little boy. When I arrived, his class was waiting for a promised popcices. I got into the day care to see them waking from their class to the cafeteria  area in a line and seating on the floor in front of the kitchen door. Their teacher went in and brought the cold treat out. Overall I am very against these popcicles. They contain water, tons of sugar and artificial chemicals for coloring and taste. In my mind, there are better options for a cold treat, but since this was not my decision at the time, I decided that my little boy can have one.

The teacher came out with about 10 icicles and gave them to the kids. When he did, they all realized that the icicles need to be released out of the plastic wrap and this can only be done by scissors. Since the kitchen area is so called to the front desk, I motioned my boy to come to me and ask the front desk for scissors. I took them and in a very natural way gave them to my son who in turn, walked to his teacher with them. While he was doing so the front desk and teacher all stood up almost hysterical watching him walking with the scissors and ran to him to take them out. I, very honestly, asked what was the problem and they said it was very dangerous for such a  little boy (5) to walk with scissors.

I smiled to myself. They do not know it, but my kids in the house have access to everything they want to including scissors, matches and knives. As a matter of fact, my philosophy is to not restrict them to such items, but to educate them on how to hold them, how to treat them and how to operate the safely. Day care does not know it, but my kids have been helping me with scissors, knifes, drills, saws, light bulbs and the likes, always in the most serious and adult way never causing any harm or damage.

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So you are her father?

Posted by Barack Levin on 5th July 2009

I went to take my little ones from daycare on Friday. My little girl was not in her room so I picked up her things and was starting to look in the other rooms for her. As I going out her class I met the parents of one her friends. The mom knows me but the dad does not. I said to the mom and together we started looking to my little girl.

We got to the next class up in the row of classes only to find the kids sleeping on their little mats.  I came cross to her and shook her gently trying to wake her up. She did not move. Meanwhile, her friend, who dd not sleep came to my aid. The father of the friend, who was just standing and watching his wife and kid interacting with my girl turned to me and said: “so you are this girl’s father?”. I replies “yes”. But he did not just say it. He meant it as if he was impressed My little girl came to their house for a play date 2 weeks before and he knew her from there. He shook my hand forcefully and amicably: “It is very nice to finally meet you” he said with a huge smile on his face. He did not have to say anything more. I could see in his eyes that he was admiring my little girl and probably me for some reason which I could not exactly pinpoint. I guess that m little girl’s visit to his house made a huge impression over him.

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ER

Posted by Barack Levin on 5th July 2009

Friends of ours told us today that they had to take their little boy (2) to the ER because he fell and was bleeding from his head. We were of course relieved to find out that nothing serious happened to him, but this incident started me thinking.

You see, this is not the first time he is going to the ER. Moreover, I realized that several our friends visit the ER quite frequently: accidents, sicknesses and others. We went to the ER once, when my son had a virus where he vomited and had diaria the whole night. He got some fluids and we were sent home.

That brought 2 thoughts:

  1. People are over excited about their kids. They pamper them and cover them with so much attention that when something out of the ordinary happens, they rush to the ER
  2. Kids of many of friends simply misbehave. They do not do it on purpose of course, it is simply that their parents do not provide them with clear cut boundaries and as a result they do not have the mental capacity to determine n their own what is dangerous and what is not. As a result, they simply take action in ways and situations that are simply too risky for them and ending up with such injuries.

 My kids know their boundries. They know where the matches are and how to open that drawer but will never do it without me. They know how recharge their remote control car by hooking it up to the electrical outlet but will never dare doing it without me being there. I gave them the tools to be thinker ad understand their limits.

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4th of July

Posted by Barack Levin on 4th July 2009

Today we were invited, as part of a group of friends of friends, to spend the day BBQing at the lake. We brought our cooler and food and off we went. We arrived around 12:30 and were the last ones to arrive. By the time we got there, food for the kids was just getting ready to be served. The kids’ table had paper plates, small cups with water and forks. Hotdogs were cut into small pieces and green salad was served with the hotdogs. Out kids and about 8 our kids, took their place and then the mayhem began. One kid did not want to sit down, another one burst into tears when he found out his mom forgot the ketchup, another kid shoved his plate and did not want eat, one of the girls played with a bottle of water and spilled it everywhere on the table, another, an older kid, harassed his younger brother and did not let him to eat. All this time, my 2 little monsters just set there eating their meals watching the chaos around them wondering why these kids behave this way. Other parents were running franticly around their kids begging and trying to convince them to eat. We just served the plates to our kids and walked away. At the end of the meal, most of the kids just left the table. My kids who are used to having a fruit at the end, waited patiently for their share and finished it. By that time all the other kids have already left the table despite their parents’ consents. One mom topped it. She was running after her child with a fork loaded with some chicken so he could eat trying to shove the white chicken pieces to his mouth. Once she managed to feed him one piece, she immediacy started running with another one. Another mom was holding her kid still screaming that he did not have ketchup.

I looked at these parents and was wondering to myself, if I had put a mirror in front of their faces, would they recognize they have a problem on their hands? Would they try to solve it? The solution is actually very easy. A meal is served only once. If the kid is not hungry for that meal, there are no other alternative to eat later on. Also, a kid must eat what’s in front of him. If he does not like, there are no substitutes. This is a simple power struggle and if the child wins, he will continue to win other struggles as well.

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Fireworks

Posted by Barack Levin on 3rd July 2009

For the 4th of July we decided to go to a fireworks display that we went to last year as well. It is a beautiful event which is not too crowded. We bring a blanket and our picnic and stay there from about 6PM until the end of the fireworks. For us, it is the best show in town.

We have invited some friends to join us and one of friends, with kids 4 and 2 told us they could come with us. When we asked why, she said that her older son is afraid of the fireworks. That brought back memories. When my little girl, last year, was 2, we naturally took her with us to see the fireworks show. Before the event, we explained that there will be lots of noise and loud music and I told her to ell me if she was afraid. And indeed, as expected, when the blasting of the fireworks began, she was afraid. I took her on me and held her tight and told her not to worry, daddy was there to protect her. She calmed down and enjoyed the show.

Back to my friend, I wanted to tell her that exactly because her son is afraid, she should prepare him and take him with her to the show. After all, it is her responsibility to educate him and take away such fears. However, I did not say anything because I am not about to tell my friends how to raise their kids.

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Tickling

Posted by Barack Levin on 1st July 2009

My little girl went to sleep. My wife went jogging, so I put the kids to bed. She wanted me to cover her with her little blanket and so I did, but instead of covering her from the neck down, I covered her whole body from head to toe. She was laughing hysterically under the cover. Since she likes to be tickled I did so over the blanket and she went crazy. As the blanket came of her, she asked to be covered again. As I was preparing to do so, she told me that after I cover her she wants to it again. I did not understand and asked what she wanted to do again and she said tickle me, and showed me exactly her. Of course, I had to oblige and squeezed some more laughers from her. One we were done, she gave me a kiss, I turned off the light and she want to sleep..

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Drowning

Posted by Barack Levin on 1st July 2009

My little boy went swimming in a pool’s friend. They were playing along very well considering it was the first time they met. One of the play things in the pool was an inflatable mattress which has a hole for the feet to cool of in the water. My little boy feels very comfortable in the water and is not afraid of jumping in and swimming under water (still with his little floaters).

While they were playing with the mattress, my little boy got himself halfway into the hole in the mattress and started swimming this way. All of a sudden, his friend, jumped or pushed the mattress and I could already see that something will go wrong and fast. I did not have to wait long. The mattress got into a new angle trapping my boy inside. Now my boy’s head was dangerously close to the water while his feet, his body in the hole and his feet on other side of the mattress. He started slapping franticly with his hands and feet in order to get out of his predicament. I saw the fear in his eyes. He was about 5 feet from me and I had 2 choice: a. jump in to help him b. wait and guide him on what to do. I chose the latter. I neared the edge of the pool and saw that while he my little son was frantic, afraid of drowning he was still in no danger. So I talked him over. “Keep on swimming toward me, nothing will happen to you”. He doubled his efforts to reach me. Still afraid for his life. As he reached me and was able to get out of the mattress and on solid ground he was prepared to start crying. I looked at him and said “Are you ok? Are you hurt?”, “No” he replied almost in tears. “So there is no reason to cry, is there?” he looked back at me agreeing turned his head and went back to play with his friend.

I wanted him to learn a big lesson to evaluate his situation and see that sometimes panicking is not going to help you. Sometimes, you need to simply think clearly even if the situation seems desperate. And above all, the daddy will not let anything happen to you.

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Game Console

Posted by Barack Levin on 1st July 2009

We met a new friend yesterday. Her boys are exactly our children’s ages. They invited us to play in their pool and we accepted. Our new friend is an occupational therapist and works mostly with kids on their developmental needs.

When we got to her house (with freshly cut watermelon) she took us on a tour of her nice house. While we were chatting in the kitchen, her older son was struggling to operate the game console remote. He wanted to play a computer game. When he asked her for help with it she obliged and went for his aid. While holding the remote, trying to start the game on her big plasma TV she started talking about computer games and how they have bad effect on kids development and behavior. As she was starting to get a hold of how to load the game, she continued on how she is against computer games and TV as a whole and that there are so many researches showing the negative sides of exposing young kids to them.

I was shocked. She was talking about the harm effects of computer games as an occupational therapist, someone who knows something about this field, and still was helping her son to load one. I unintentionally told her that we do not have computer games in the house and that our kids watch only 1 hour of TV. And she replied that 1 of hour of TV is actually good because most kids watch much more than that. With a big smile I told her that it was not 1 hour of TV a day, it was 1 hour TV every 2 weeks. She smiled and agreed that actually this is the right way to go.

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Field Trip

Posted by Barack Levin on 1st July 2009

My little boy is in summer camp and goes on a field trip twice a week. They go to the local library, pizza place, Imax and more.

The other day they went to a store that teaches the kids how to prepare and cook their own food. This time they were offered to prepare cheesy bread sticks and so they did. When my wife came to pick him at the end of the day, she was stopped by the head master of the day care. “I want to tell you” the head master said “that your son is the best kid here”. He is responsible, follows instructions and directions. The other kids are just roaming around and he is such a great kid. You, as parents, are doing a great job”. My wife’s jaw dropped to the floor. We know our son is a very good kid, but to hear something like this from the headmaster was a true compliment.

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